When we start our aging journey we encounter some problems such as health or financial problems and other challenging situations. When this happens it is natural to blame external forces as the causes of these problems, but if we will be honest with ourselves not all of them come from outside.

Even if we are victims of bad luck, the best thing we can do is to change ourselves, abandon the concept of “blame” altogether and focus on how to make our lives better.

Sometimes you need to take a few minutes to sit down and brainstorm on some tangible things you can do to improve your life; you don’t need to start big. For example if you are planning to lose weight, start by taking a 15 minutes’ walk every day.

No matter what you are going through in life, you will accomplish more by helping yourself than blaming the world.

Life happens to all of us, we all have different challenges to deal with, whether financial, health related or personal relationships. It is not what happens to us but how we react to it that defines the quality of our lives. People who thrive as they age always find a way to get through the hardships and appreciate what life is still offering them.

They accept and embrace the reality of what is in their lives today and let go of those things that didn’t work the way they wanted or envisioned. We must recognize that we really don’t have control over everything that happens to us.

People who flourish let go of grudges and hard feelings; they learn to accept their relationships with friends and family – either good or bad – and move on.

They know what they want and what they don’t want and make no apologies for being who they are because they have come to realize that life is a wonderful gift.